morning gate
August 30, 2009
facebook asked me what’s on my mind. many things. too many to place into a smart-aleck status update, one that will make it seem as if people actually care about what is on your mind by commenting or liking it. well for some, it does not even have to be smart-alecky. i guess once you are popular enough, people naturally care about what is on your mind so pretense is not necessary. kind of like when you are a famous artist. you work like crap to become famous, then after that you can produce crap and still make it seem amazing.
sometimes people write smart-alecky status updates, or even emo ones. and it is strangely weird when no one responds to them. i would think that they would be clearly disappointed. and sometimes i think it is important to consider the time of the day. like you would not want to status update a brilliant sentence when it is like 4 am for everyone, unless you are somewhere in america and still have friends who care about you in singapore.
well clearly, i belong to the people don’t really care what i think category. maybe that is why i hardly do status updates on facebook. there is an inherent fear that it exposes myself to judgment, like “HAH! no one responded to your status update, you must really suck.” i guess that is what facebook is mostly about, putting yourself out for the world to judge, and then boost/lower your self-esteem according to how popular you are.
and among other things on my mind, friendships are high on the list. are friendships something one actively works towards? or something that happens naturally? i have this idea that friendships are really based on opportunities, and that is probably why proximity friendships are more common than not. as much as you would like a person to be a friend, how far can you go before you just become annoying or seemingly in possession of an ulterior motive?
somehow i think it is pretty unnatural to want someone to be your friend, when he/she is not already mostly around.
perhaps it is cause all i have are proximity friendships.
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js | September 2, 2009 at 6:49 am
hey don’t update facebook, it keeps me out of the loop! update your blog.
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Elaine | September 2, 2009 at 9:58 pm
lol zilin, lemme quote this part first:
“sometimes people write smart-alecky status updates, or even emo ones. and it is strangely weird when no one responds to them. i would think that they would be clearly disappointed. ”
so does this part apply to blogs as well? i think it should apply to (willingly publicized) blogs… it’s the same logic. and since you are the one who wrote the above, does it apply to your blog?
and im leaving a comment here and increasing the total number of comments for this post by one.. so don’t be disappointed k. hahaha :b jk
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Nam | September 3, 2009 at 4:45 am
very good point there elaine
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js | September 3, 2009 at 6:18 am
I think there is quite a big difference. Blogging helps to organise your thoughts because you actually have to pen down your ideas. And it is also a good way to capture your thoughts because you might lose them…. like a handy journal.
I think it depends on the mindset of blogger. I would like to think people blog for themselves
On the other hand, the status update thing sounds very much like a shoutout. Doesn’t seem to have any other function…
anyway girl, please do blog whether it is for you or for your readers. Makes me more justified in believing that you still exist!
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Elaine | September 3, 2009 at 7:02 am
haha thanks chin nam
anyway, @ js: yes i agree that the status update thing has no other practical functions other than to be a shoutout tool. however, some people use their blogs to do the same thing – they post similar one-liners on their blogs. but there’s an extra step: they put up a link to their blogs on their facebook profile page or on their msn nicknames (zilin, i know you put it on your nick but i really have nothing against that…^^ it’s none of my business anyway hehe). so it really doesn’t make much of a difference. people visit the links if they’re interested and read the blogs… and comment if they want to. for facebook, people read the status updates if they are interested and comment and/or ‘like’ if they want to. so i think blogs when used in such a manner is almost identical to facebook… just that it’s on another site.
on the other hand i’m inclined to agree with you that a lot of it depends on the mindset of the blogger/facebook-status-updater. that in turn affects how they use these tools… as a shoutout tool or as a one-liner thingy or whatnot.
hahaha @ zilin, i’m also curious if you write for yourself or for readers. i don’t think i’ll mind it either way since 1) it’s your blog, you write it how you want to hehe i’ve the choice whether to read it or not and 2) i like what you’ve written so far so that’s absolutely fine